The Alchemy of Mixed Feelings*

‘When we have opposing feelings, when we are pulled into different directions, when we are engaged in an inner struggle, the hardest thing to do is just to be with both sides in a Focusing  way. Yet this is the one thing that will allow a resolution of a conflict in the right timing and with all parts of the self included and honoured.’*

My recent clients have brought home to me again how easy it is for different parts of our self to be in conflict, or for one ‘part’ to be lost and another to be so dominant that a person finds it hard to know: ‘Who am I?’

Recognising that there are many different sides to us, many facets of the same stone, many different ‘parts’ of us – recognising these different parts and hearing what each has to say to us can be at the least calming; at best, healing and releasing, making us more able to feel whole. We are complex human beings and each part of us is valid.


*From an article by Ann Weiser Cornell and Barbara McGavin, which appeared in ‘The Focusing Connection’, July 1996